Change
It's All About Change
There is only one constant in life . . . change. Some changes are good and some bring sadness. Sometimes we're filled with excitement, sometimes dread. No matter what the change, there is a process we go through to successfully handle change.
Change is situational and continual – the new boss, the new relationship, the new house, the new job. In his book, Managing Transitions: Making the Most of Change, William Bridges defines transition as “the process people go through coming to terms with the new situation.”
He explains, “change is external,” or comes from outside of ourselves. It can be forced or something we choose to do. “Transition is internal.” It's our emotional reaction and attitude we use in deciding to accept, adapt or resist change.
Transition usually starts with an ending or the realization that things aren't going to stay the same. In order for us to move forward and have some control over the outcome, we need to let go of the past and start exploring all our options and opportunities.
Prior to a change, we were comfortable because our situation was familiar. We resist change due to fear of the unknown. As we move toward new roles and routines, we may experience feelings of fear, anger, sadness or resistance as well as relief, hope or excitement.
It may feel confusing and chaotic, but it can also be a time of creativity and challenge. What we do with these feelings makes the difference. When we're able to find something positive or see possibilities, we'll have energy and motivation to take the next step.
We choose how to respond to our thoughts and feelings. This determines our behavioral or emotional reaction to change, whether positive or negative. Think of a recent change you've experienced. What were your thoughts and feelings? How did they influence your reaction? What did you do to get through it?